Here’s a real life lesson: make having fun your goal, one of your daily goals, a part of your vision and purpose.
Does that seem frivolous? Probably to most people, especially to the mass of those living in the mediocrity of quiet desperation. They are the ones who toil through unbearable jobs and situations to get to the point of having fun. Bullshit. And this is one major reason why I advocate making a conscious connection with Heart, discovering who you really are — that core identity, core Self — and then creating your life Purpose. You define it and do it. And in that design, one of the primary parameters better damn well be having fun, because if you think you have Purpose and life is still a joyless chore, you have made that decision and set a path for yourself from a place of Ego, not Heart. Part of the problem may lie in the definition of fun. For a simple word, different shades of connotative and denotative meanings exist for it, that’s for sure. Let’s go with one that relates to a significant life. No, I’m not taking the fun out of fun! Unless you mean fun is doing something so unrealistic and disassociated with everyday life that it’s a fantasy and can’t be maintained. I like that kind of fun at times, but it’s not my daily working definition of fun. Mine revolves around doing something enjoyable and amusing. I find my Purpose both. Is it real work, challenging work, and at times tiring work. Yep! But it’s fun. Different sports are fun but they fall in the same category. Enjoyment and amusement are sustainable and attainable on a daily basis. My writing, my explanations and illustrations and speeches about my philosophical beliefs that encourage others to discover the miracles, meanings, and wonders about life are fun. These daily writings are fun. It’s just like today: I had no intention to write about fun, but this has been a blast. But all of this comes only when we get into fellowship with our Heart and then in the fellowship of the Heart with others. That’s part of the fun. The daily discoveries I make there — amazing! So, if it ain’t fun — amusing, enjoyable, pleasurable — don’t do it! I began writing this morning about my day yesterday and delivering the eulogy for my aunt. You know what? It was emotionally exhausting, but it was so fulfilling and significant. All of my beliefs in the face of a time like that only validate all of this Heart-truth to me. And you know what else? Even though I was exhausted, I still wrote last night, and I wrote from my Heart. And I felt limp this morning, facing a really full day. But I’m still writing. It’s my Purpose. It’s hard work. It’s fun. And I will leave it there, hoping I’ve helped someone to consider their choices, the source of their mind-soul operating system to make those choices, and the very serious, valid, and venerable goal of fun, Fun, FUN. I’m tired now. Go have some fun for yourself!
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Many times, everyday people shy away from anything that has to do with the sacred; if fact, the sacred scares them. Why?
Many relegate the sacred to the “pros,” you know, priests and pastors and sachems and such. The rest of us have been convinced that we somehow don’t know how to handle sacred things. Not true of anything, as far as I’m concerned. Let me qualify that. It’s not true of anything that would be truly sacred to me in a meaningful way. Anything to do with us spiritually that we cannot touch or do, then it’s not spiritual for us — well, at least for me. I have eternal Spirit dwelling in me as Heart. Because of that, I have direct link and access to the great Spirit, God, if you choose that terminology which is great, or the Universe. The Spirit who is in all, who moves throughout all, who has woven and set in motion this whole Universe — the Spirit is always there with infinite resources — limitless — and all I need to do is to offer those vibrational, life energy matches through the mediation of my own Heart to find the magic and secrets of life I need in any given moment. That, my friend, is awesome, and that is the essence of what sacred is. Those sacred vibrations of life energy carry me into understanding, joy, comfort, love — the list is endless and includes all the mysteries of spiritual and material life. And I don’t need a special building, place, time, or company to offer these vibrations. Anytime I offer vibrations of life with a specific end, purpose, or goal, it is a sacred request I expect to be fulfilled. Sacred — highly valued, significant, reserved for special purposes; not meant to be used in a casual, insignificant way. Anytime my mind and soul perceive, desire link with the Spirit, that is not an insignificant moment; it’s a moment the Spirit through Heart values greatly. There’s nothing casual about it, yet this facet of sacred can be engaged and experienced daily. I explain the above because the last two days, I did not expect to write about sacred laughter and sacred tears. I didn’t think of it and orchestrate it in my mind. It came to me as I sat in fellowship with my Heart, writing the thoughts. The term sacred laughter emerged the first night, and as I wrote last night I was thinking about my aunt’s funeral. I wrote about the tears, and I realized that the idea of tears in very specific contexts was also significant — hence, sacred tears. And I will be honest here, especially as I have sought to let you into my thoughts and world throughout these months. I’m tired, exhausted. I shed sacred tears today, and I shared sacred laughter. I gave the eulogy not too many hours ago at my aunt’s funeral. She was the last of seven siblings, my father having been the oldest. Now, my cousins and I are officially the eldest generation because all the spouses have passed on, too. So, I spoke and we cried those sacred tears. We laughed sacred laughs at some of the memories, and at the big celebration meal afterwards, we cried and laughed some more. I valued today and will treasure the memory. Sacred laughter arises from seeing the beauty of life that Heart-vision gives us, the genius of creations of people, the essence of people, the beauty of life and the Universe, the love of the Spirit, the love of humanity, special memories and relationships — all of that and more can evoke sacred laughter. The beauty, significance, and wonder of that is amplified when I consider all these things may also evoke sacred tears. Each chuckle, guffaw, or snort of sacred laughter says, “Isn’t that so amazing? It’s just so amazing it shocks me with joy, an exploding joy that makes me laugh.” And each tear of sacred tears says, “I feel this so deeply, recognize the depths of Spirit in this world and my relationship with it, that this great sympathy and empathy wring each tear straight from my soul — “ each breath and sound of laughter and each tear filled with Heart-insight, understanding, love. Sacred. Yes, we laugh and cry other times about other things, less significant things, but sometimes, these common, everyday expressions and behaviors become sacred when they are a direct result of our connection to eternal Spirit, when we are vibrating at a level that resonates with Spirit at specific frequencies in our mind, soul, and Heart. Such times are not planned at some church service hour; they are spontaneous when we are walking in the Fellowship of the Heart! As I think about my experience today, I see another instance where making a conscious choice for Heart as our soul-mind operating system makes all the difference — perhaps the difference between tears of bitter, unending, unresolved anguish or hatred or guilt or blame and Sacred Tears; perhaps the difference between laughs of disgust, derision, deflection of painful emotions and Sacred Laughter. Yes, I think you or I have all the credentials we need to conduct sacred practices for ourselves. We have Heart, a piece of the eternal Spirit of all housed in these bodies. Eternal Awesomeness of Sacred Lives. Last night I wrote about laughter. Tonight, I write about death and grieving and sacred tears.
My aunt died the other day, and tomorrow is her funeral, which I will officiate. Really, it will be a simple few minutes. It’s the way my aunt and her family want it. I think they’re being pretty real. In fact, at the age of 93, my aunt lived a long time. That would be insignificant if she hadn’t lived life knowing who she was and doing what she wanted as that one. Not many folks can answer those questions directly, decidedly: Who are you, and what do you really want to do with your life? My aunt did, and even though she did, I have still shed some tears. However, I classify them as sacred tears, blessed tears, each drop in some way containing appreciation for another in blessing us with their love or appreciation for knowing that they lived the essence of Spirit in them the best they could. Sacred tears are shed when we evaluate and feel the blessings of love given by eternal Spirit. Some people, though, good, loving, caring, and tender-souled people, grieve passively for years. This kind of grief exudes tears of self-pity that can grow into debilitating sorrow that hardens like cement in the pit of the stomach. It makes folks feel dead to life and act dead in reference to many things. Sometimes, they blame and even hate the deceased for the negative impact on their life or the lives of others. Sometimes, those who grieve passively allow the emotion to take over their life; they do so out of guilt. All of this destructive, negative processing of grief is really a default setting in us. This is Ego-grief, and it needs to be recognized. People experiencing this sort of grief need professional, caring help, and they usually need to be assisted in seeing that need and getting that help. No, not everyone has led what we would call exemplary lives, sometimes just the opposite, but in every single creature, a part of life energy inhabits them, and at the very least, that energy can be discerned, even after the hatred and blame or guilt and remorse that we sometimes feel. Heart-grief, though, recognizes loss, actively values what has been lost, and grows because of it. Even Heart-grief takes time for most of us, some longer than others, but it still is a positive process that keeps moving us forward in life. It will make us stronger in our abilities to move through challenges, empathize and sympathize with others, and help us to show our core Self and live Purpose. Heart-grief helps us to adjust emotionally in a positive way. Part of experiencing this type of grief comes from being in fellowship with our own Heart and being in the fellowship of the Heart with others. And sometimes, that other may be one who has been lost. The veil is thin that separates us who still house eternal Sprit in mortal bodies and those who have given up the body and released Heart, that piece of Spirit inhabiting us. We can, and I do, speak often with loved ones or friends who no longer have bodies but are very much alive as spirit. And this is comforting. Such times help me evaluate the beauty of their lives, the things I didn’t or couldn’t see about them when they were here. I gain insight into my life many times. Yes, make the most of the time we have here; love and enjoy the hell out of life. Make sure others know you love them and make sure you sense love from others. No matter how you cut it, the mortal body time here is short in comparison to history, and we came here to get as much from it as we can. Therefore, when a loved one passes on from the body, I do grieve, but I don’t passively let the emotion of grief control me. I repeat: I choose to grieve, to actively grieve, to participate in Heart-grief that processes life and loss in the fulness of love, blessing, and appreciation. When I do this, when I communicate with loved ones who have passed on, I consciously and sometimes physically can sense their care and understanding. I feel joy, smile, and sometimes even laugh. So I will be grieving tonight some more as well as tomorrow. While I would appreciate your positive energy for strength and processing events and relationships, do not pity me. I choose to grieve and do so actively. I accept the sacred tears that will flow. And I wish you much blessing in any grief you may need to process — past, present, or future. How easily do you laugh? One way I know I’m super-stressed and nearing total exhaustion is when I realize I’m not laughing.
Laughter serves us as a great barometer. It’s an indicator of high and low pressure energy states. A high barometric pressure indicates fair weather. A high energetic state means we can laugh with life, we can engage challenges, stresses, and even difficult people with a lightness and confidence that Spirit is with us, that we are in the flow of the Universe, and that fair weather reigns in our mind and soul. Yep, that’s a damn good barometer! Please notice that I said laugh with life — not ridicule others or use laughter as a weapon against others. I emphasize this because good qualities, characteristics, anything, can be converted into a negative energy atmosphere, i.e., positive energy can be abused, misappropriated, or corrupted. It’s relatively easy to see that occurring every day in many places in social media and broadcast communications. Make no mistake, I give comedians, including those with satirical strains and silliness, big leeway; however, when laughter is used to bring people down about life, belittle or hurt others, I am not interested. You might be, but it won’t feel good for long. How do I know that? If you’re in the mindset of generating or participating in laughter being used in negative energy fields, I can almost guarantee that your focus is on things that won’t produce significance or fulfillment for you. We choose our objects of focus, and if we choose tragedy and drama and injustice, those are the energies we emit. We might laugh at or create jokes about such, but the preoccupation with such will not yield Heart-laughter. We won’t find much to laugh about there. If you have read my articles or Morning Pages, you know I’m not suggesting we ignore very real social issues. I’m simply saying preoccupation with such will not lead to enjoyment or laughter; they aren’t areas of high barometric pressures. We don’t want to settle in stationary low pressure fronts over these areas. I’m not making rules, just observations. To me, laughter is sacred. I have always valued laughter. I would say comedy and humor — I do appreciate the various expressions of those — but I am thinking of the consequence of those: laughter. Because creations of comedy and humor aren’t the only things that make me laugh. Although… My first attempts at writing in a significant, life purpose kind of way had the goal of being published in Reader’s Digest, which Dad subscribed to. My favorite sections of the magazine I wanted to target were those humor ones, which I always read first: “All in a Day’s Work,” “Humor in Uniform,” and “Laughter Is the Best Medicine.” I was eleven years old, so I had no idea how to write such pieces. I saw and appreciated the happy, humorous insights into life, and I thought everything I wrote was just as funny. I saw laughter in life all around me, even though some things weren’t funny about my family’s life. Those insights into joy that produce laughter are often times Heart uses to try and reach our conscious mind and soul to choose Heart as our life processing and operating system. Spirit always seeks to reach us through Heart. When I process life through Heart, I see the miracles, the little expressions of Spirit all around me daily, the magic energies that abound. The common everyday experiences of life and expressions of Spirit that make me smile, chuckle, and laugh like babies and toddlers who peek over their mom’s or dad’s shoulder when I see them in a store or restaurant, make a silly face, and wait for a reaction or they just smile back when I smile at them. Or animals, insects, birds just being themselves… I could go on, but I won’t. These expressions of Spirit that Heart responds to in joy and laughter are just life, not scripted comedy or humor. This sort of Heart-laughter produces a spirit of appreciation, gratitude, and thankfulness in my soul and mind. It stabilizes me and encourages me. Such sacred soul laughter accelerates the manifestation of my visions of living the essence of Heart. If I can see the visions so clearly that I can laugh in joy at their fulfillment, then I’ve invested a lot of emotion in them. Not only that but also I am immensely more motivated to perform those daily goals to get to those joyful endings. I can laugh through the challenges. It’s definitely re-training for minds that have been accustomed to operate according to Ego doubts and evaluating life by so-called “reality.” However, I will repeat my earlier statement: To me, laughter is sacred, and it is for this very reason. Laughter shifts mindsets and creates high pressure energy, a high, fair barometric pressure. We know when we hear and are operating through Heart when we can laugh with life, laugh with joy at the fulfillment of our vision. In other words, if we are having fun, unabashed, unmitigated fun even through difficult times and challenges, we are on target. That’s a gauge, a reading. Yeah, a reading of high barometric pressure! No stationary lows here! I started my Morning Pages today with a question popularized by the Spice Girls, or something close to it: What do I want, do I really, really want? In my experience, when it comes down to answering that question in reference to one’s life, very few can.
I want to encourage you to answer that question. It can be anything. There are no wrong answers. Nope, there are not. And the reality that so many people can’t respond to that makes it easy to see why folks are clamoring for self-help products and any writing, quotes, posts, or anything they can consume about the law of attraction, finding self, or somehow mystically running into a life purpose. This is just to help any who need to answer the above question. You see, the law of attraction works no matter if anyone understands it or not. Gravity worked before Isaac Newton, too. Once we know about such powerful dynamics, though, why not use them to our advantage and use them to help us lead the sorts of lives that deep down so many of us thirst for. To appropriate the benefits of it, I am going to describe my concept with my language. I want to make it clear: I’m thankful for those who use any language to encourage us to live life fully. When all is said and done, life is about enjoying the journey, feeling like it’s worth being here because it’s fun being here, and my efforts and description should lead others to that. If they don’t, then I’m doing a shitty job of communicating. Throughout life, I believe our Heart appeals to us to consciously hear it. Heart is core Self, and core Self wants to be known and acknowledged. When that doesn’t happen, confusion and emotional dissatisfaction occur, and those abound today. I’m not talking about some schizophrenic episode; Heart is part of our being, just like Ego, but the reason we came into this physical realm is to discover that we have this vital piece of eternal Spirit in us. Discovering Self begins a more informed, more fun, more significant journey. Once we do that, we can create our purpose. We get to choose how we will live as core Self. It will be very natural if we have known Heart, discovered Self, because Spirit intends this life to flow in a full, satisfying, fun, organic way. The point of Purpose is to express that core Self to the world, and we get to envision how to do that in a multiplicity of ways. We need to engage in that Vision-ing every day for a few minutes. We should develop crystal clear pictures. When those pictures get clear of living our core Self in this world, we should feel joy and many positive emotions. Emotions propel us to manifest, to realize the vision. But there’s more. Do you see and feel what it’s like to be living the vision you have pictured from the purpose you have created to live your core Self honestly and fully and ego-free in this life? Great, then what do you need to do to step towards that? Make a list, really. These are goals. Execute. Do it. Take any steps, any action you can to walk into the light of your vision. Then keep going. When one is fulfilled, move on to the next. This isn’t difficult — well, let me restate that. It wouldn’t be difficult if Ego weren’t part of our makeup. But it is. Ego will put up roadblocks: no time to spend four or five minutes visualizing every day; can’t trust those feelings — what if you have deep, subconscious ulterior motives?; you aren’t trained for that; you will have to get another degree to do that. You get the drift? Ego wants control, and if those are the vibes you are sending out, that is what you will get. Do you have any idea how happy controllers are? They’re not; they’re always facing real or imagined problems because they can’t control everything. They rarely know peace. We are creatures who emit, transmit, and broadcast energies of life, of the universe. The specific transmissions conjure similar responses. It’s like tuning a radio. If you are in the mood for one type of music, you tune the radio to a specific frequency. Same thing with us. We’ll get what we tune to. Let me take the radio analogy a bit further. When we turn on our vibrational signals, we emit frequencies, we transmit, broadcast. In a sense, we are a radio transceiver. We transmit and receive electromagnetic frequencies. When we send out specific frequencies, that’s where we are tuned and we, transmitting from one frequency will get responses from others on that same frequency, i.e., we get what we ask for. If we use our Heart, core Self, to do the tuning, then we can expect amazing things — things that we have visualized and called for through electromagnetic frequencies, the energies of life. My hope is that we will make it clear, feel the fun and joy, and hit the freakin’ “Transmit” button by taking action towards the vision. Does that make sense? Good. The Universe is listening for your transmission, whether it is through Ego or Heart. Produce a great show from the Heart to send out and expect to receive a return transmission with everything you put out there. That’s using the law of attraction to your advantage. |
Questions to consider:How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really? What is my truth? How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe? What would I do with my life if I could do anything? What is my passion? Why am I here? How can I discover answers to any of these questions? If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you! Archives
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