(Aug. 10, 2019)
Face to face. That’s the way to conduct business, make policy, and create relationships. That’s the way to explore how you feel about another and how another explores you. Eye to eye. Understanding. Empathy. Reaction. Interaction. Action.
Some educators know this. When faced with problematic students, teachers want some resolution. What motivates any teacher depends on which operating system is being used: Ego or Heart.
When a teacher confronts one of these “troublemakers”, the teacher may stand in the hallway alone with the student and ask, “What is going on?” That previously arguing, cursing, talkative, apathetic, or unbending kid looks the teacher in the eye; tears roll down her cheeks, and she says, “I’m only seventeen and my twenty-year old brother lives with me but won’t work. I work forty hours a week, but I have to get my car fixed. My parents can’t afford to come here.”
This scenario is based on a student I had. She turned out to be really amazing, but she originally didn’t project that. Looking into my student’s face, I saw determination to succeed and be great. Had I just looked at school policy, I could have used discipline and removed the student from my class.
Ego could have done that without guilt. Heart rarely would.
Politicians know face-to-face encounters work. Presidents do this every year at the State of the Union address when they have select civilians who stand up to adoring applause. Of course, those who disagree with the president have their own faces sitting next to them, ones they want to use to present their take on some issue.
Why are face-to-face encounters effective? We are human beings, and we come equipped with two operating systems: Ego and Heart. We choose — either by default or deliberation — to use one or the other. Both are necessary, and each has its purpose. When we look into another’s face, into their eyes, we are forced, for as long as we allow it, to act, react, and interact beyond the Ego self. We sense another with Heart.
That brings me to consider the the shootings in El Paso, Texas, and Dayton, Ohio. For those who seem bent on insisting that everyone has a right to military grade weapons and war-time ammunition capacity, I would ask you to look into the faces of those families who lost loved ones. I mean really look. Imagine telling them you have a legal right to have those weapons, and if someone like you had been there, you would have stopped the ego-fueled shooters. But you weren’t there, and you didn’t.
In fact, if those sorts of weapons were not for sale or the ammunition capacities were not legal, then those wicked people would not have been able to wreak such havoc. Can other ways be found to kill? Yes, but we should do what we can to stop what we can.
The second amendment argument? I have a friend from childhood who spent a career in the military. He disarmed nuclear weapons around the world. He makes a great point. Should we have access to nukes because they are fun, because they are arms? What about howitzers? RPG’s? Where’s the line?
Some say they have to have safeguards against an overreaching, possible military takeover of this country by our own government. Really? If our military decided to stage a coup on behalf of a stupid, rogue president, and an infantile, dictatorial-minded one, do you think you could really fight them with their technology and weaponry, with their air capabilities and missile targeting expertise? No, we could not.
Therefore, those who oppose full background checks, registration of all weapons sold, completely closing the gun show loopholes, a ban on all military quality and grade assault weapons, and at least a ten day waiting period until all the precautions have been carried out to produce proper licensing — those who oppose all of these only have the Ego excuse that they like guns and want what they want, when they want it, and everyone else be damned because, well, the Second Amendment. None of those things I and many others desire in any way abrogates the constitution. They are decisions about how it is administered.
Again, I would challenge such thinkers to stand face to face and tell those bereaved family members that you want your guns because you have a right. How does having fun stack up when you look into the eyes of people whose loved ones would very likely not be dead had common sense legislation that “promotes the general welfare” been in place?
Really, don’t think about your argument against me. Or what you would say to your buddies. Or what you would write in a social media post. Or what you would tell legislators. Think what you would say looking into the eyes that have tears streaming, in a head attached to shoulders that are retching held up by knees that are trembling. Your fun and misguided, egoic rights don’t seem to be rooted in the general welfare or in Heart energy. Ego — that’s the issue here.
Some have said the bigger picture is the need for improved identification and treatment of mental illness. Or that video games are the cause. Research says those things are not the bigger picture. Eliminating access to weapons of war would help. But that’s not the bigger picture, either.
The bigger picture gets down to individuals. We choose either the Ego operating system or the Heart operating system. That’s the root. Because neither anyone individually nor society in general chooses to always employ Heart, we need government for those “general welfare” principles to protect society, in general, from Ego actions, reactions, and interactions. That’s the crux of it.
Find a picture of one of the fathers, mothers, siblings, or children of one of those murdered. By yourself, in your own soul and mind, look into those eyes. What would you say — about anything? Each of us, whether we have awakened to Heart or plod along in Ego, can begin healing for ourselves, for those affected, and for our society and the world at large by formulating with words what we would say. We may never get to meet this person, but the energies emitted by our expressions are real and healing. They prompt action.
Face to face.
Once I realized I could create any purpose I chose, I thought deeply about it. I engaged in a very real conversation with my own Heart, a magical one I referred to in an earlier post and recounted via poetry in “Bird Bath Moon,” which is in one of my Medium articles.
On that night, Heart asked me one focused question: How do I create Discovery? How do I use that identity and power in my life? That is my Purpose.
If I follow Heart, urgency is eliminated. Heart-purpose produces peace, calmness, and assurance that underlies enthusiasm, passion, and execution. I require these emotional qualities in order to envision specifics of how I will express Discovery, my Purpose, my Superpower.
Here are a few questions that might help you explore, discover, and create your Purpose as you speak with your Heart!
1. What has inspired you both in your past and recently?
2. What patterns have you recognized about things that have inspired you throughout your life? For instance, what similarities do they share? Are they consistent in basic nature — art works, technology, service to others, trades and crafts, physical exertion, music, use of numbers, or any of thousands of possibilities?
3. What inspirations have driven you to action, i.e., what inspiration has been translated into enthusiastic motivation powerful enough to make you do things like educating yourself in a variety of formats, getting involved in groups, taking jobs associated with your inspiration?
Spirit wishes to experience the beauty and intricacies of its own creation. When we create Purpose, we engage Spirit in our personalized life experience as we find ways to exercise our newly created Superpower. Pretty awesome!
When we don’t create, we miss out, and that void of having a purpose remains. My recommendation is to choose Heart, discover Self, and then create Purpose by considering what brings happiness to our soul-mind-body complex. What floats our boat and is relevant to our awakened identity?!
Now, when we look in the mirror we can see a Superhero who expresses our new Purpose, our Superpower. Do you have that vision yet?
Ego would seek to neutralize the energy of Heart by working through the mind; therefore, Heart encourages us by working through soul in creating Purpose. Soul work is emotional work, and when creating Purpose, I considered my personality, based on emotions, and my passions. These are soul concerns, and my Heart knew I needed those considerations.
Why? My Heart also knows how quickly my ego-influenced mind can rationalize me out of decisions. Therefore, in fellowship with my Heart, my emotions come first. No matter how anyone’s Heart works within a person, we come to know Self in order to be happy, content, and excited about life. We are meant to feel significant, loved, relevant — in other words, purposeful! These were some of the emotional components for me.
I do not divorce the mind and soul aspects of personality from one another; their separate consideration only serves to help me in awareness, which means I choose Heart to be the operating system for my mind, too. My mind was the biggest hindrance in making the decision about Purpose.
Heart had me use my mind to consider rationale rather than constructing rationalizations prompted by Ego. With my Heart-operated mind, I evaluated skills, abilities, education, and interests, and how the things I could choose to do would make me feel — a holistic energy of love for myself. I realized that all of my life could be summed up in one passion and mind-soul union: Discovery.
I think it may be useful to some people to name their discovered Self and created Purpose, which I suggested at the end of the previous section. Mine is Discovery. The contraries of Ego and Heart working within my mind-soul-body complex when choosing Heart allowed me to create: Heart showed me the schemes of Ego.
Ego would jump right away to cause me to think about finding a safe and secure job, respectability, justifying my actions to others, and similar Ego concerns. None of those are wrong, but they are not the principles for creating the Purpose of a Superhero.
(To be concluded)
While the elements of Awakening don’t follow in some specific order for any of us. For me, almost instantaneous — same evening, same conversation — with my awakening was my desire for knowing.
This meeting and acknowledgement of Heart as Spirit in us brings along a second question that is so intertwined with Who am I that it’s difficult to distinguish. Almost in the same breath, I needed to, demanded to, know the answer to Why Am I Here? Or another way to think of it is What is my Superpower? Superheroes have a superpower!
Our new frequency of Heart operating as our central processing unit instigates this question in a renewed way. I say renewed way because most of us wonder about this question at different points in life; that, alone, is another proof of Heart constantly calling our attention to its presence within us.
If Heart works to raise this question to us throughout our lives, then how much more intense will this question be once we have awakened to Heart?
This is a point with which some will disagree, but please consider this. We create our own purpose, create our own Superpower. If you are younger or if you did not have a background in organized, dogmatized religion, you may not have as much of a challenge as I did.
Why? Because the belief was drilled into me — I accepted it and Ego welcomed it — that I would have to find what God wanted me to do with my life. There was a plan, and it was all laid out. I had to find it, like some kind of spiritual pin-the-tail-on-the-purpose game. It was exterior to me. And when I hit the right spot, I would just know it.
Ego likes such a scenario because it pleases so many others. It makes people fit in, do something which society, a moral society, approves of. And that is okay; however, the question will keep coming up until we follow the way of Heart, eternal Spirit that is part of our inherent identity — not exterior to us.
We are co-creators with Heart of our own Purpose. The Heart operating system will question and prod and lead us to choose. It is not dependent on anyone or anything else. Ego and Heart operate, and we choose whichever we want to be our operating system. The choice may be a conscious one for either operating system; however, if we do not choose, Ego is default.
(To be continued)
As we journey through life, we continue to discover, and as we discover, we mature, we improve, we work to live and integrate our true Superhero self into our everyday world. This pursuit of happiness moves us to find resources to help manifest and live our Heart-truth every single day in order to enjoy this wonderful, eternal, powerful, Superhero self.
Therefore, we should know this Self well. In order to do that, think about the following questions, for a start:
3. After these conversations or meditations, if you chose a name, one word, after having a session of speaking with your own Heart, what might that be, a name that characterizes that Self you sense has been working throughout your life, a name that is associated with those things that have truly inspired you and caused you to do something, to act, to enjoy, to live in enthusiasm? What would you name this Self? (Your Superhero!)
This is very personal between you and Heart in relation to Spirit. Consider it there. Allow the Superhero you are to awaken, emerge, and begin living in the superpower bound up in your true Self.
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!