Paradoxes become such when we don’t know what to choose or how to think. When we do, we can create a paradise. Many times, paradoxes would never be such if we already know who we are, what we want, where we are going, and how to get there.
I am not where I want to be today, in some ways. In other ways, I am, because I’m headed towards my vision. I’m living my vision now (just not as fully as I will be), and the work, interactions, and relationships in which I engage are all part of that. This is part of creation, and the reality is that we are all exactly where we are because we created it.
When we aren’t purposeful, we create unexpected and unknown ends. Then, the choices that we have to face in the present often appear as paradoxes. That is because we have not heard our hearts and don’t know who we really are. How many people ask that question of themselves? If we don’t know Self, then life purpose and its visions will not be there to give the framework to make decisions, which causes some choices to appear paradoxical as regards ego-heart interactions.
Example? “I’m supposed to follow my heart, but if I follow my heart, I won’t be able to pay the rent.” That’s a biggie. That’s also ego talking. If one is in that situation, small incremental steps got her there, and small incremental steps can get her out. They must be steps, though, that are taken which can fulfill life purpose in some way that day, in some way make that true Self known. If the vision is clear, those little steps will get us to our vision.
I have to believe that because that’s where I am right now. And I’m saying that it works. When life in general seems so unhappy to many people, they blame others or fate or bad luck or something else, anything else, rather than recognizing that we are where we are because we created our current life. Blame is an ego coping mechanism, and I can guarantee you that it never helps you feel better. When all is said and done, blame does not help one iota.
Please know this: blame is as worthless as guilt and fear when it comes to our emotions and outlook on life. Instead we should take responsibility for why we are where we are right now. There is a powerful aspect to taking responsibility; it says that you are a creator, which means that you can re-create your life.
Rather than saying, “This job sucks, and I wouldn’t be here if that first company hired me. Look what they missed. It’s their fault.” Uh-uh. No, it’s not. You took the job you have. You could have refused it. But many reason “If I refused it, then I would be broke.” How can you possibly know that? AND, what did your heart say? If you had the counsel of your heart, you would either have a different job or you would be just fine where you are.
So, what’s the big deal? Peace in your mind and emotions. Contentment with now. Enthusiasm for where you’re headed. Joy in life. The ego will say it’s overwhelming to try and figure it all out. The heart says it’s not. Abraham Lincoln understood this: “The best way to predict the future is to create it.” How? It’s so complicated, the ego says. Abe said, “The best thing about the future is that it comes one day at a time.”
That’s it. Today, one day, this day, we speak with our hearts, get the vision clear, and know that whatever step we take towards the vision that expresses Self in life purpose is an act of creation of our future. No paradoxes. Only our own personal paradise.
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!