This whole phenomenon of fellowshipping with my heart borders on freaky sometimes. I truly wasn’t sure what to write about this morning, but as I wrote yesterday, I just let the words leap off the point of my pen and watched them coalesce into sentences. I resisted when I realized the topic that I was headed towards: relationships.
“No, not that because so many superior, brilliant people have already dealt with that topic in depth.” However, there is no denying the heart, is there? I had other excuses, but no reason. Then, I thought about my Grand Unified Theory of Humanity (GUTH), and yes, there it was.
If I am looking at a common topic, I am going to approach it in an uncommon way — if one exists. GUTH says that the starting point for each individual, no matter which path, direction, or way they choose, is located in our hearts. We must choose to have a relationship with the heart if we are going to connect in a genuine, meaningful way to anyone or anything else. Know ourselves, first and foremost. Fellowship with the heart. Heed the counsel, because after all, it is you.
When I hear and see the multitude of maladies in relationships today with individuals, groups, governments, and nations, I can’t help coming back to the same question: What happens if we all start with the proper relationship with ourselves? If we do that, then we discover core Self.
If this discovery is a true heart movement, it drives us to express that Self in life purpose to the rest of this world — a channel to express love and establish connections, relationships, and the only way to experience significance, fulfillment, joy, and peace. Sounds like so much, but I know that this is the outflow of that inward relationship.
When we don’t establish this most basic relationship of heart and whole being, then we will move through life always seeking fulfillment through others of those things that our own heart is offering to us in those soft but continuous whispers. When others don’t supply the subconscious needs that we seek, then it screws up the relationship, doesn’t it?
While it sounds very romantic to speak about someone else in a love relationship completing one another or fulfilling one or being the reason for one’s existence, to me, that is a troubled relationship because those things are really Heart functions, Heart that connects us to and establishes a relationship with Spirit, with the Universe. Another person can’t do that sufficiently; only Heart can.
When that happens, then we are free to engage in relationships that are truly mutually edifying, beneficial, and profitable — in any capacity. Love should be the basic bond of relationships with anyone. Now, love takes on various colors and intensities, but love makes relationships real, every sort. If we shy away from that, shun relationships, or continually destroy them, then we can be pretty sure that we have never established that most basic, personal, eternal relationship with Heart. We sometimes subconsciously sense that relationship is lacking, which is why we won’t enter into deep relationships with others because within we know that we have rejected our own heart.
My old buddy Walt Whitman deals with this in very real expressions in his epic “Song of Myself.” He says this at the very outset: “I celebrate myself, and sing myself” — he had joy in his relationship with his own heart! — “And what I assume you shall assume, / For every atom belonging to me as good belongs to you.” He uses assume in the sense of taking on and adopting, so he is saying that whatever process and realities he experiences will be experienced by the rest of us, because he says that we all need to be able to sing a song of Self.
In that same poem, Whitman urges the reader to “Stop this day and night with me and you shall possess the origin of all poems… // You shall not look through my eyes, either, nor take things frome me, / You shall listen to all sides and filter them from your self.” What a great foundation for a relationship, which is possible when we know ourselves. He invites the one he would like to be with in a relationship to share in part of his life, and he makes it clear that they will not need to think like him and see things the way he sees them. No control. No believing, thinking, seeing the exact same thing or need to. It’s a good basis of a healthy connection, isn’t it?
What about it; do you have a song of yourself? Do you have such a strong relationship with your own heart, an established and real life purpose, a vision and mission which you are taking action towards every single day? Do you enjoy your life so much that joy spills over into your relationships with others — friends, family, lovers? Can you share yourself without insisting on controlling what the other thinks, says, or believes and still love that other one?
Oh, yes, love. Walt presents that in “Song of Myself,” too: “Swiftly arose and spread around me the peace and knowledge that pass all the argument of the earth…/ And that all the men ever born are also my brothers, and women my sisters and lovers, / And that a kelson [a part of a ship that holds all the basic floorboards together] of the creation is love…” A person who has established that relationship with their heart knows peace that surpasses all the turmoil, and peace is necessary in relationships. A connection with all people is possible.
Oh, and what is the basis of all of those connections, relationships? Love, love cements it all together, holds it in place. If you don’t love yourself, you cannot honestly love another, not without a screwed up relationship. We are wired to love self and love others. When either one of those conditions are lacking, an settled soul will result. Knowledge, peace, love — I wish those on all of us.
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!