Most people think of perfection as living life in total excellence and as free from fault as possible. Do you see how faulty that is? Who calls the shots as to what is excellent and what the faults are to be avoided?
To me, that is the same issue as some politicians or out of touch educators making decisions about what students are supposed to know and be able to do. So very faulty. No perfection there. No perfection anywhere.
In fact, true perfection may be the acknowledgement of imperfection. No, it must go one step further. Perfection is embracing the imperfection and working through the process of acceptance, recognizing Ego’s role and employing Heart response. Perfection is learning no such thing exists and releasing the desire for the illusion, the illusion generated by an Ego-soaked society of a life filled with wealth and luxury and perfect relationships and devoid of pain, sorrow, and difficult challenges.
No, this is not the bitterness of someone who has not known bounty. In fact, I’m not saying anything is wrong with those good things — at all. The problem is when the drive for those things derive from Ego rather than Heart, when they become Ego-objects that divert us from Heart-purpose.
Is it wrong or negative to desire a perfect life? No and yes. It’s not wrong because wrong doesn’t really exist. Things may be favorable or not, have positive or negative consequences, but in general, no wrongs. (Some boundaries dealing with impinging on others’ lives and Heart-choices — too complicated to deal with here. I’m discussing daily life situations.) However, yes, it is wrong if the definition of perfection means faultless.
That happens often to those who do not discover core Self, who never come to know who they really are. They replace seeking Self and creating and living Purpose with a crusade for Ego-definitions of perfection. The drive to achieve that which doesn’t exist leads to many problems, including many emotional and mental problems. How could it not when some life goals defined by Ego don’t really exist? Have you ever wondered why some very talented but tortured celebrities keep screwing up? Well, you don’t have to wonder any more.
When we discover Self, we discover along the way that Ego is part of us, part of our total being. It still has influence and plays a role. Even though we have Heart, eternal Spirit, who we may choose to be our primary operating system, we have Ego, too. In fact, we choose to arrive here in this total expression of personalized Spirit. Each of us expresses Spirit and allows Spirit to experience the fullness of its creation. Pretty awesome! It’s just more awesome when we become self-aware and live with the knowledge of who and what we are.
Then, we can create Purpose, a way to express our personalization of Spirit to the Universe. That means Spirit accepts all the imperfections, challenges, difficulties, heartaches, anger, and any of a million other possibilities and, thereby, senses all the physical, emotional, and mental experiences of humanity. The Ego and Heart dynamics we each possess allow this. We get to choose between these two operating systems. Those who awaken to Self enjoy this life in a much expanded way, but perfection is not included in that way.
What we can enjoy is this total experience. We can embrace our challenges and work through them with Heart energy. Perhaps this is a redefinition of perfection, the perfection of choosing Heart to navigate all the challenges and imperfections, the assured imperfections, of life, knowing that we have a Purpose in which we will persist through pains, sorrows, disappointments, discouragements, betrayals — see what I mean! Through it all, we gain increasing insight into the mysteries and wonders of life, life we have co-created.
p.s. I honestly have a point to share that I have tried to get to for the last two nights. Maybe tomorrow!
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!