Have you ever really, truly lived with abandon? You know, the way it is commonly referred to as having no restraints and doing anything and maybe everything that offends polite society because you do and say whatever you want, whenever you want, wherever and however you want? Very few people have ever done that, and if they have, they weren’t very well liked.
When anyone lives like that, in all reality they have abandoned any sort of care or concern for others. Of course, people abandon things every day, so this is no shock. Unwanted pets are abandoned; babies are abandoned; significant others are abandoned. I know reasons exist for each one who abandons anything. Sometimes people abandon things that aren’t usually thought of in a negative way: sinking businesses are abandoned before it’s too late, for example.
Abandonment has this idea of giving up. It’s a word from the Old French that worked its way into English. Perhaps the most negative aspect of abandonment is this idea of not only giving up but also of giving up absolutely, a willing choice. Apply this to dreams, passions, or life purpose — or even Heart — and it’s an abandonment that results in more misery than all those other negative ones put together.
How? When someone gives up on their dreams, when those dreams dry up, shrivel, and blow away from conscience, all the benefits, blessings, and love that could have been known through that person’s dreams is lost. The dreams go to the grave with the person. More than that, though, such people live lives that are usually filled with bitterness and emptiness, and even if they hide that from others, they suffer it internally. Let me make it clear that they are not wrong; they just lower the frequency of the global energy field.
Let me go back to the Old French etymology for a moment. The word was also used in the reflexive sense, to abandon oneself, and it meant to totally give self to a reason, cause, purpose — a focused abandonment which implies full commitment.
Today, a common term that signifies the same principle is being “all in” on something. Total abandonment. All in. At any cost. The purpose, the mission, the goal will be accomplished — no compromise. Done deal.
In my life, I have pursued various skilled jobs and careers with enthusiasm, but I ended up abandoning them because they were not my life Purpose co-created with Heart, with Spirit. Yes, they were good, I was good, but I was always looking for more, always felt as if something was missing. And it was; however, Heart worked through all of those to help me see this, and I have abandoned myself to this writing and communications field.
My point tonight is my characters, Eric and Anne Lafarnge in The Fellowship of the Heart, although very successful, needed to come to Heart acknowledgement, needed to see that they bear eternal Spirit, I am, and then create the purpose they knew was theirs to create and live, one in which they could express that core Self and be fulfilled, significant, and happy. They are both accomplished and admired professionals, but they come to realize they were missing something.
Whenever Ego works to rationalize us to live a soul-deadening practicality, dreams die. Thoreau said it beautifully: “I did not wish to live what was not life.” Life is living out our personal truth, our Heart identity and life Purpose of our own design. When that is engaged, as the Lafarnges will find, there is no going back. It’s all in. It’s living with abandon to enjoy and, as Thoreau said, “…suck out all the marrow of life…” Ego will present many diversions and alternatives to try and keep us safe and acceptable to others, to try and make us not seem so consumed with a purpose that it makes others uncomfortable.
And that gets us back to living with abandon — not the wild, un-purposed kind that is meant to just offend others — that’s Ego, too — but the focused sort of accomplishing our dreams by living our life Purpose passionately and lovingly.
That’s worth doing whatever it takes. All in. Abandoned to light, love, joy.
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!