Allowing blesses us, always blesses us. However, it doesn’t always begin by making us feel good — sometimes, yes, but not always.
When I speak about allowing, I imply a number of concepts. The analogy of water to the concept of allowing gives one sense. Both flow, and both, if we attempt to staunch that flow, will create problems if not handled properly.
Psychologically, if we try to dam up the negative, painful, hurtful experiences and thoughts of life, it will damage us. A number of avenues exist that can cause that damage. We need to let those thoughts and emotions flow freely and fully in order to deal with them.
Ego does not want to allow that. Ego acts like a dam, a poorly constructed one at that. It’s job is to attempt to protect us from hurts. Who wants to feel those nasty things, remember the suppressed traumas, dredge up old issues, or confront people who have become or were formerly problems for us?
If you are operating with Ego as your primary processing system for your mind, the answer would be no one wants to do those things, especially if they aren’t currently affecting anyone else. Why create problems? Why try to fix something that isn’t broken?
Why? Because something is really broken if we have issues that have been dammed up in our subconscious, in our psyche, and we will experience a dam failure at some point. Maybe not snap, but something worse than that is to simply resign ourselves to the hurt. Then, the dam of Ego may hold, but the waters of negativity and hurt and psychological destruction will keep backing up and flooding the good parts of life. It becomes difficult to make decisions, to feel and act on a sense of life purpose, to be able to simply enjoy our adventure here in time and space.
Can’t help it but I have to quote Thoreau here: “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. What is called resignation is confirmed desperation.” Now, that’s some serious flooding damage — resignation: things never change; nothing makes a difference; nobody really cares, so why should I. Oh, please, if you’re there, read this and speak to your own Heart. If you need help beyond that, seek it, please. That is no way to live.
Let me bring this back to my water analogy. Water flows. If it’s dammed, it’s still going to flow. It must be channeled to be useful. Building dams is a costly endeavor, and they must be carefully monitored and maintained. So, even if you think you’re handling negativity by keeping it dammed up, you’re kidding yourself, dude. One little glitch and the whole thing collapses.
One thing further to consider here, allowing does not mean bringing up a bunch of shit and wallowing in it. Allowing is not wallowing. So what do we do? We need to process and evaluate it, to begin with. We need to deal with negativity in a mentally and emotionally healthy way by bringing it under the scrutiny of Heart-light. See it for what it is. Now, if you can’t examine the problems, make a decision about them, and conceive solutions, the old Ego is being used as the central processing unit.
Turn the dam (get it!) thing off. Speak directly to your Heart, to that internal, core self, and put the negativity in perspective. This can be a lengthy process, or it may be short. Just depends. Again, if you need it, get outside help.
Once, though, we have made an honest evaluation in the light of Heart, we can begin building or rebuilding our lives by receiving the thoughts and messages that give action to the processed thoughts and emotions. In our water analogy, the release of their potential energy produces kinetic energy of action, of building, like water that has been processed through turbines to produce something positive — electricity.
When we allow, process, and release negativities, we receive energies of life, we become balanced, and we find solutions. By allowing even the painful thoughts to be processed in Heart-light, we can stay balanced. When life energies are balanced, we can experience fulness and significance. I can build myself and my life Purpose, and that in turn builds others. They are thankful, and they share Self with me and others, and then, I am thankful. Now, we’ve not got a fatalistic Circle of life but a Circle of Joy, Circle of Meaning and Significance!
And that’s nothing to keep dammed up. Let it flow, Baby, let it flow!
Questions to consider:
How many times have you asked yourself or simply thought about the following questions?
Who am I, really?
What is my truth?
How do my actions reveal what I really feel and believe?
What would I do with my life if I could do anything?
What is my passion?
Why am I here?
How can I discover answers to any of these questions?
If you have considered any of these questions, I hope that my experiences and writing will give you some guidance. Please read my blog and comment and share your thoughts. I would love to hear from you!